Let’s Chat About Body Confidence & Self LOVE

An open chat about body confidence and how it's about time we loved ourselves for who we are!

Maafushivaru - 29

Bikini: Yoins (It's now £7.19 in the sale!!!!!)

"Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it"

So, last week I posted the above picture on Instagram, I was super nervous to post it and *almost didn't post it, but then I decided to chuck it in the fuck it bucket (the best kind), and posted it.

And oh my god, the amount of wonderful comments and love I got was SO overwhelming! I was truly expecting to have some people trashing me or hating on my post, but no, nothing but pure love.

Which made me realise it's about time we stopped trashing ourselves, it only makes it easier for other people too. Let's show ourselves the love that other people show us. I'm not ashamed of my body, in the last year or so (I'm blaming that loved up relationship ting!), I've put on weight, I've been conscious of it and I've been trying to get my body back to a place where I'm happy with it. For me, not for anyone else, because I want to look in the mirror and think DAYUMMMM GIRL YOU FLY!

Although right now I'm not *100% happy with my body, I've decided to turn any negative energy into positive and love what I'm working with, after all you only have one body, and yeah, it might not *always look exactly how you want it to, but that's how it looks so learn to love the skin you're in.

I know in my heart that I'll never be an 'Instagram girl', I have cellulite on my legs, I bruise like a peach, my boobs are bloody massive (inserts eye roll emoji), and I'm just a curvy kind of girl, always have been and always will be. But it's something that I'm proud of, I want to hold my hand up and say that I LOVE MY BODY THE WAY IT IS. And you should too.

In a generation where we're obsessed with social media, it's so easy to compare ourselves to beautiful girls and feel down on it, but sometimes we need to remember that everyone is showcasing their best parts, and those girls might also be insecure, or have parts of their body they aren't happy with. If you want to look like a model, then you go girl - BUT, do it for you, not because the world wants to see you that way, but because you want to be that way.

However you want to be, just be, and let that be enough!

Maafushivaru - 35
Maafushivaru - 33

Oh, and if you're having a day when you're not loving yourself quite as much as you should; then take some wise advice from the babe that is J.K.Rowling...

"Is fat really the worst thing a human being can be? Is fat worse than vindictive, shallow, jealous, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me."

W O R D.

53 Comments

  1. Angie 25th April 2017 / 9:43 am

    You look fantastic lovely!! What a great positive post!

    • Hayley 25th April 2017 / 10:21 am

      Thank you lovely lady! <3 x

  2. Sophie Cliff 25th April 2017 / 11:41 am

    You are just GORGEOUS my love xxx
    Sophie Cliff

    • Hayley 25th April 2017 / 12:47 pm

      Thank you beautiful lady! <3 x

  3. Sophie 25th April 2017 / 11:48 am

    Yessssss all the high fives to this!! You look absolutely incredible, and this is a really important thing to talk about. Love the JK Rowling quote at the end too, SO SO true. You’re beautiful Hayley!
    Sophie xxx
    http://www.sopharsogood.com

    • Hayley 25th April 2017 / 12:47 pm

      Ah thank you so much lovely! That’s so kind of you to say and isn’t that quote just amazing?! x

  4. The Purley Girly 25th April 2017 / 1:53 pm

    Absolutely loved this post! I was chuckling and nodding to myself, because I too bruise like a peach, but I have the opposite problem with my boobs (non-existent tittage). But you’re right, we are all so different, and just because I look wistfully at the pics of girls with the thigh gap I’ll never have, doesn’t mean that they too aren’t wishing for something else, or feeling insecure about something else.

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 11:39 am

      So glad to heart that lady! It’s a bloody mare isn’t it?! Half the time I don’t even know what I’ve done to get the bruise haha! YES to that lady! x

  5. Kerstin 25th April 2017 / 2:18 pm

    You look bloody amazing girl! I absolutely know what you’re talking about – but honestly, not all of us need to be Instagram beach babes. We’re all unique and beautiful in our own way and oh boy, do you look fab in that red swimsuit.

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 11:41 am

      Oh girl thank YOU! <3 Definitely love, it's so nice to just be more accepting! Thank you love! x

  6. Hannah 25th April 2017 / 2:40 pm

    Social media definitely has such a hold on us! But you look absolutely incredible, stunning photos as well! x

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:28 pm

      Thank you lovely! 🙂 It really does – so easy to compare! x

  7. Laura 25th April 2017 / 2:58 pm

    You look absolutely gorgeous girlie! I applaud you for writing this post – it’s such an important thing to talk about and one we all should be more open about. You’ve definitely inspired me! 🙂 xx

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:28 pm

      Thanks gorgeous! I’m SO glad to hear that! <3 x

  8. Kate 25th April 2017 / 4:25 pm

    BANGIN’ !!!!!

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Thank you love! x

  9. Amy 25th April 2017 / 7:57 pm

    Babe I love this post. You look bloody INCREDIBLE by the way. I’ve kind of accepted that although I’ve got a bit more weight than I’d like and I’ll definitely never be one of those Instagram girls this is just how I naturally am and not everyone looks as me as critically as I do at myself!
    Amy xx

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Oh love thank you!! Exactly love, it’s how you see yourself! x

  10. kate 25th April 2017 / 8:04 pm

    What a fantastically positive post! You look incredible!
    Kate xx
    themakeupartistschoice.com

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Thank you girl! <3 x

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Oh love thank you! x

  11. Jasmin Charlotte 25th April 2017 / 9:34 pm

    You look amazing in that bikini! This is such a true post, I always fluctuate with how I feel about my body, I know I need to be kinder to it. I’ve found doing strength training has really helped. I love feeling stronger!

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:30 pm

      Thank you love! Same, I go through phases, but I’m definitely trying to just stick with a positive outlook; I know I’ll have days where I feel crappy but just trying not to be too hard on myself! x

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:31 pm

      Oh love thank you! It really did; I was so nervous to post it on Instagram! I know, what a babe! x

  12. Josie 25th April 2017 / 11:25 pm

    DAMN GIRL YOU FLYY!! You rock that bod babe -you’re so right we all need to start showing ourselves and our bodies a bit of love and I’m so glad you can appreciate that! You really do look so lovely in these pictures and honey, I would kill for bigger boobs like those babies – so you be proud!

    Love that quote by JK Rowling – what a babe! Such wise and impressionable words! P.S Totally crushing on your hat – love it!!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:31 pm

      OH GIRL THANK YOU!! <3 We really do! Thank you love, haha love that! She's such a babe, right?! Thanks girl - It's from Debenhams 🙂 x

  13. Kelly Glen 26th April 2017 / 8:03 am

    What a great and very positive post. You look absolutely fantastic, if only I had some of your confidence. I think it’s time we stopped hating ourselves so much and just try and appreciate what we have.

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Thanks girl – I couldn’t agree more! I’m turning any negatives into positives from now on! x

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Thank you! 🙂 x

  14. Suze - Luxury Columnist 26th April 2017 / 8:44 am

    You look great my dear but I agree, it’s all about being happy in our own skin and to hell with what others think. You exude a very positive energy

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Oh Suze, thank you – your comments are always so lovely! YES to that! 🙂 x

  15. the Fashion Matters 26th April 2017 / 9:49 am

    that’s a lovely hat!

    Loved reading this too <3

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    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Thank you! 🙂 x

  16. Beth 26th April 2017 / 2:35 pm

    Dayuuum girl what a bloomin’ fantastic post! We should all be more positive about ourselves, we’re all amazing woman! This post is just perfect keep working hard lovely and also just want to say a quick thank to the comment on my blog xx
    http://www.pagesfrombeth.blogspot.com

    • Hayley 26th April 2017 / 6:23 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment girl – couldn’t agree more, we bloody are! You’re welcome love 🙂 x

  17. Gabrielle 26th April 2017 / 7:18 pm

    I’m sad to hear you thought you’d be met with negativity – you look gorgeous in this red bikini, you should be proud of yourself! You’re totally right – comparing ourselves to people on Instagram is a pretty terrible idea, nobody comes away from it any happier! Hope you’re having a great week Hayley 🙂

    aglassofice.com
    x

    • Hayley 30th April 2017 / 10:24 am

      Thank you for your lovely comment girl! I was just super nervous to post it – you just never know what people will say online you know?! Thank you love, you too! xo

  18. Jenny Cole 26th April 2017 / 9:01 pm

    Really helpful to read this post Hayley, thank you. I’m so self-conscious about my body and often feel I shouldn’t be a blogger/YouTuber because I don’t look pretty enough/thin enough etc. So to read posts like this from someone I really admire and see how body positive you are makes me feel like I shouldn’t be hiding myself away. And by the way – you look frigging awesome lovely, so don’t be hiding that body away from anyone!!

    Jenny xx

    http://www.jaffacat.co.uk

    • Hayley 30th April 2017 / 10:25 am

      Oh girl thank YOU! I’ve been so overwhelmed by the amount of love and support I’ve received on this post – so glad that I’ve inspired you to be more body confident too; here’s to self love girl! x

  19. Peta 29th April 2017 / 4:37 pm

    Oh Hayley, YOU are beautiful inside and out. What a gorgeous figure, gorgeous curves gorgeous bikini and gorgeous message. 🙂 Thank you my love x
    Peta
    http://www.pe-ta.com

    • Hayley 30th April 2017 / 10:25 am

      Oh love thank YOU! That means so much! <3 x

  20. Beth Norton 30th April 2017 / 3:10 pm

    Girl I LOVE this post. Not to mention you look absolutely bloody incredible!

    You’re so right though – there’s such a pressure to have a certain body type, to look a certain way when in reality, we’re ALL perfect because we’re so different. It’s so important to remember!

    Proud of you for this – and always.

    Big love beautiful.

    Beth x

    http://www.bethnorton.co.uk

    • Hayley 1st May 2017 / 4:10 pm

      Oh girl thank you!! Your comments always make me smile beautiful lady! Couldn’t agree more my love! <3 xo

  21. Bee 2nd May 2017 / 11:34 am

    GIRLLLL, YOU KNOW THIS PHOTO GAVE ME LIFE! I have a very similar figure to you underneath all my clothes and it gave me some inner confidence that it is okay to not love your body entirely but you should never, ever be embarrassed about it, You look crazy, insanely gorgeous!
    Bee xxx

    • Hayley 4th May 2017 / 8:36 pm

      Oh girl what?! That’s honestly SO lovely to hear! Babes you’ve got an absolute BANGING body and it’s about time we were proud of ourselves rather than shying away from how we look! And thank you! <3 x

  22. Honey @ The Girl Next Shore 4th May 2017 / 11:24 am

    I mean, is anyone ever really happy about their bodies? Even people who have the fittest abs or biggest biceps are probs a little insecure inside.
    YOU look gorgeous in these photos and in that swimsuit. And you really really owned it with that hat. 😉

    Honey x The Girl Next Shore

    • Hayley 4th May 2017 / 8:37 pm

      Yes definitely love, I think everyone is hung up about something! Oh girl thank you! 🙂 x

  23. Teesh 4th May 2017 / 2:14 pm

    Love the swimsuit on you!

    • Hayley 4th May 2017 / 8:37 pm

      Thanks love 🙂 x

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