The Importance Of Caring For Yourself On A Down Day & My Top Tips

Sharing my top tips for self care on days when I'm not feeling my best!

Last week I had a really bad day, I'd woken on the Monday morning and just felt like a fog had decended and I didn't know what to do, I drove home from Ben's and once I was home I felt so overwhelmed with work I had to do and sadness but I had no idea as to what had triggered it or why I felt that way. But then it got me thinking; there isn't always a reason, sometimes we just have bad days and that's fine, at first I was stressed because I coulnd't afford to not get any work done, but then I decided to not be so hard on myself and take it easy! I took the day to take care of myself and here's how...

1.) Get in some relaxation; One of the first things that sprung to mind when I was feeling crap was run a hot bath; add in some bubbles; pour a glass of wine and just relax. Take some time out and just do 'nothing'. I had a super relaxing playlist in the background and read my book for a good hour or so; it's such a nice feeling to loose yourself in a book and not worry about anything for a while!

2.) Do something 'just because'; It struck me that I hadn't done anything 'just because' in such a long time, I'm constantly planning or creating or scheduling and I hardly have a moment to just do something because I want to or because I can. I went to my local Paperchase and picked up a sketchbook; I recently made my dad a book for his 60th birthday, full of snaps from our childhood and he absolutely loved it. I've decided to make one for myself; packed full of my favourite memories; something that I'll treasure forever. Don't feel like you always have to justify why you do something; just doing it because it makes you happy is enough!

3.) Exercise; I've gone from the girl who hated the gym to someone who actually *enjoys it; I've been doing 4/5 classes every week and absolutely loving it! I've been reaping the benefits and seeing a difference in both my mind and body; exercising releases endorphins which helps to lift your mood. I really struggled to shake my bad mood so I took myself off to the gym for a work out, it was a good distraction and left me feeling better afterwards!

4.) Stay offline; I always find that if I'm having a bit of a crappy day; I stay offline. I mean I'll still write posts and answer emails but I mean offline as in away from social media; sometimes there's nothing worse that someone raving about how happy they are/how good their day is/how fab their new campaign collab is when you're feeling low. Normally I'd be like YOU GO GLENN COCO, but when you're feeling a bit shit, it's far too easy to compare yourself and feel worse!

5.) Don't blame yourself; Something that is so important to remember but when practicing self care it's crucial to remember to not blaming yourself for having a bad day or feeling down. At first I was frustrated with myself because I had SO much to do and I feel like I didn't have time to feel down; but alas, thinking that way helped nothing, so I quickly realised that it was just 'one of those days' and whilst I did what I could, I primarily focus on feeling better within myself.


What are your self care top tips? Did you find this post useful? P.s have you read All The Bright Places?! What did you think?


  1. Sophie Cliff 11th April 2017 / 9:39 am

    This is such an important post lovely – when you get days like that you just have to show yourself all of the love <3 xxx
    Sophie Cliff

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 6:25 pm

      Thank you lovely lady! Definitely, it’s so important to go easy on yourself! x

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:13 pm

      Definitely get that in love; so important! x

  2. Angie 11th April 2017 / 9:57 am

    I think exercise can be the cure for many things!

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:13 pm

      Couldn’t agree more love, makes me feel so good afterwards! x

  3. Laura 11th April 2017 / 10:19 am

    A million times yes to all of this! Like Sophie said above, it’s so important to be kind and loving towards yourself on days like this – it’s so easy to beat yourself down for not feeling 100 % but that will just make things worse. I always try to tell myself that just because I’m having a bad day doesn’t mean I have a bad life, and that realization, as small as it may sound, has been a lifesaver!

    Hope you’re feeling better already! xx

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:34 pm

      Thanks for your lovely comment lady! That’s such a great outlook – it really is so important to just recognise it as a bad day and allow yourself some time to feel better rather than feeling worse! x

  4. Suze - Luxury Columnist 11th April 2017 / 12:11 pm

    Making your Dad a book is such a sweet idea. As for the digital detox, I hadn’t posted on my blog in a while as I was travelling and it was great to have a temporary break!

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:14 pm

      Ah thank you love; he adored it! Same love, I scheduled everything before I went and it was SO nice to just be ‘offline’ for a while! Hope you had a wonderful trip! 🙂 x

  5. Josie 11th April 2017 / 6:37 pm

    Wow, well that bath looks incredible! These tips are brilliant – I love the one about doing something ‘just because’. I think that often falls very low on our list of priorities in today’s working world! We’ve all got better things to be doing than to be happy!? I love the idea of a scrap book and for me it changes, sometimes I love to play the piano to forget about things and just focus on something creative. Other times it’s blogging, baking or exercise (also a great one you’ve mentioned). Staying offline is spot on too! I’ve recently realised just how much I use things like Instagram and Snapchat and how much time I waste on them and that more often than not, they just stir up comparison thoughts or dampen my self-esteem – so I’m trying to use them less, and when I do, turn my comparison thoughts into ‘future goals’ to work on!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:18 pm

      Ah thank you love – your lovely comments always mean so much! Definitely – it’s something that is so easy to forget but doing something that makes you happy should really be a priority! That’s such a great shout; music is always so therapeutic too! God same, I’m trying to use them less now as I waste so much time just feeling worse about myself! x

  6. Erin 11th April 2017 / 9:19 pm

    My biggest issue is when I am sad I tend to spend a lot of money – last breakup I bought a 15″ MacBook Pro. Not the best habit. Especially as having a bad day usually means a new lipstick or something like that – not good lol. I need to start caring for myself in other ways – I love your tips 🙂

    Erin || MakeErinOver

    • Hayley 12th April 2017 / 7:15 pm

      I did the EXACT same thing love and bought a laptop when I split from my ex, must be a think haha! I know what you mean love, it’s like that ‘quick fix’ to cheer yourself up; when really it’s more about the things that make us feel better in the long term! x

  7. Teesh 14th April 2017 / 1:34 am

    I like having a pamper day whenever I don’t feel so good. I get my hair done, get a foot spa, a mani pedi, maybe get a massage. I come out feeling brand new!

    • Hayley 14th April 2017 / 9:53 am

      Such a good idea love, it always feels so good to have the full works! x

  8. Jaz 15th April 2017 / 5:52 pm

    I need to do all these things so this post couldn’t have come at a better time. Sometimes you just have to take time for yourself, regardless of the blog and just chill. I’ve done that the last couple of weeks as I was conscious I had been neglecting my fiance and close friends.
    Hope you feel better – that bath looks amazing! Just what you needed I bet!
    Jaz xoxo

    • Hayley 18th April 2017 / 4:40 pm

      So glad to hear that my love, you really do – I think it’s so key! It’s so easy to feel stressed/over worked I think it’s just what I needed and everyone does from time to time 🙂 x

  9. Jenny Cole 18th April 2017 / 7:34 pm

    Great tips for self-care. It’s so important to look after ourselves, especially on down days. I’m terrible for beating myself up and feeling like I need to be productive all the time. But I’m gradually learning that taking time out just for me is just as important in the long run. Sometimes I will just watch rubbish on TV, catch up on a series I’ve been wanting to watch for ages and chill out with a cuppa and some popcorn. I also try to go for regular massages and have regular reflexology, as they help me to really relax and calm down, as well as helping with my pain. I think what you said about doing things ‘just because’ hits the nail on the head 🙂

    Jenny xx

    • Hayley 19th April 2017 / 11:11 am

      I hear you love, I get like that I feel so bad for relaxing or trying to take some down time as I always feel like I need to be doing something! Massages are a great shout – such a good way to really switch off! x

  10. This post is exactly what I needed to read this evening. I’ve been having what’s felt like one of those weeks and although I didn’t spend much time on line at the weekend, I’m still feeling just a bit “meh” today. I think it’s time for a bath, a good book and some trashy TV this evening!

    • Hayley 25th April 2017 / 10:28 am

      Oh love I completely hear you; sometimes it will just be completely out of the blue for me and there isn’t a particular reason I just can’t seem to pick myself back up! Hope you’re feeling better beautiful! <3 x

  11. The Sunday Mode 12th May 2017 / 9:25 am

    I love how you mentioned not blaming yourself, sometimes I’m just having a day and it’s like dammit I don’t feel like doing anything but watching Netflix or some Prison Break re-runs and just relaxing, and I don’t want to feel guilty about doing that you know? Gotta take some time for me and not feel bad about doing that.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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