Dear Diary: A Note On Being Enough

An open letter to myself on being enough, and to stop comparing myself to others.

On Being Enough - 1

"Comparison is the thief of joy"

I am enough.

In fact I've always been enough, maybe I just didn't realise it at the time.

This post for me is something that's been so overdue; I just never really knew how to put it into words.

On a recent trip to the Maldives with Ben, something just clicked in my head and everything became clear, how I was feeling, why I was feeling it and the path ahead of me.

What am I talking about? Well, first up ima say that the quote above...  never a truer word spoken, comparison really is the thief of joy. There would be so many times I'd sit on social media and feel so low because, well everyone was being invited to these events that I wasn't, or 'x' had so many projects on whilst I felt like I had none, why did 'y' brand choose to work with that blogger and not me?

Then a few weeks ago, I went to a lovely press dinner with Primark and I had my crystals read by a lovely lady; she told me that this year was going to be very successful for me, in terms of love and my career. She told me that I would work out what I did and didn't want, and that I'd focus all of my energy into what I did want and in turn, I'd do really well.

Whilst I'm fairly skeptical about these kind of things, it definitely hit home that I need to channel my energy into my own thing, rather than what's going on around me. After the event myself and Ben spent a magical 9 days away and I honestly can't tell you how bloody wonderful it was. I came home feeling so refreshed, energised and rearing to go again.

But more than that, I knew that this was a new chapter, a chapter for focusing on me. Since I've come home, I've had my blinkers down and been full steam ahead and I don't know whether it's the positive energy I'm putting out or what but I'm busier now than I ever have been, I've landed some awesome campaigns with brands that I've always wanted work with, I'm really enjoying getting into my YouTube channel, I'm in the middle of a lush new re-design and I have something V exciting travel related to share with you all (hopefully someday soon!).

So, for me, it really did take someone giving me some advice from the outside and spending some time offline to really realise what's important in my life; it's time to focus my energy on my career and my path; and to worry less about what's going on around me. I will always support my fellow bloggers because YOU GO GLENN COCO - but, it's time for me to not pay *too much notice as I know it has a negative impact on my work.

I've realised that I really am enough, I always have been, and now it's time to prove it to myself, the only way is up from here girls! <3

On Being Enough - 12

"A flower does not think to compete with the flower next to it. It just blooms"

On Being Enough - 6
On Being Enough - 10

Thank you for reading, as always lovely ladies! PLEASE know that you ARE enough - and you always will be! Don't let comparison get the better of you! <3

28 Comments

  1. Laura 20th April 2017 / 1:22 pm

    So beautifully written Hayley! I’ve been having a bit of a tough time lately too, and reading this really made me feel a bit better about myself, and stronger too. I’m really bad at not comparing myself to others, but it’s something I’m working on doing every day. Baby steps! 🙂 x

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Hayley 20th April 2017 / 1:35 pm

      Ah thank you lovely! Same, it’s something I’ve been working on and have seen such an improvement in my attitude and work! 🙂 x

  2. Amy 20th April 2017 / 2:18 pm

    Yes to this babe! It’s so easy to compare yourself to others especially on social media, but I’ve found that if I focus on me and also spend a bit more offline time that I feel so much better! I’m glad you’re feeling so much better and energised – you create the best content anyway but I look forward to what’s to come from you too!
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

    • Hayley 20th April 2017 / 3:01 pm

      Ah thank you SO much lady – your comments always mean the world! <3 xo

  3. Victoria 20th April 2017 / 3:31 pm

    Such a wonderfully, beautifully written post! Everyone needs a reminder sometimes that we are enough! And reading this made me think a little about myself! I’m constantly comparing myself to others, in everything I do! I must start to not do this and spend more time on myself! X

    Victoria | VictoriaaHelenn

    • Hayley 21st April 2017 / 10:07 am

      Oh girl, thank you for your lovely comment! It’s so important to channel your energy into yourself! 🙂 x

  4. Sophie Cliff 20th April 2017 / 4:52 pm

    Love love love this Hayley! You are totally smashing it and deserve every success – you are one of the nicest, most supportive blogging gals out there 🙂
    Sophie Cliff

    • Hayley 21st April 2017 / 10:35 am

      Ah lady thank YOU! <3 As are you, I truly love your blog (and you!) xo

  5. Suze - Luxury Columnist 20th April 2017 / 7:05 pm

    I’ve always thought you have a really positive energy Hayley and I agree, it’s pointless comparing ourselves to others. Everything happens for a reason and I wish you a really fantastic year ahead!

    • Hayley 21st April 2017 / 10:35 am

      Oh Suze thank you – that’s so lovely! Thank you, I wish you the same my love! x

  6. Erin 20th April 2017 / 9:31 pm

    YES! I love this! I need to take your mindset too! I love the quotes too, comparison really is the thief of joy. I need to focus more on me too! Cannot wait to see what is to come for you 🙂

    Erin || MakeErinOver

    • Hayley 21st April 2017 / 10:36 am

      Thank you love; we really do need to live by it more! 🙂 Thanks lovely, you too! x

  7. Lauren 20th April 2017 / 10:06 pm

    Hayley,
    You’re one of the very first bloggers I started following years ago and I’ve always loved your blog as it’s so unique and honest. You are more than enough for me and I’m sure all of your other readers too! I agree it’s definitely so important to not compare yourself to others especially considering your own personality and style is what sets you apart from everyone else.
    Lovely post, has definitely inspired me to be more carefree! xx
    Lauren, Sassyinthecity.com

    • Hayley 21st April 2017 / 10:36 am

      Oh babes thank you – I bloody LOVE your blog too! <3 So glad to hear that love! x

  8. Peta 21st April 2017 / 8:51 pm

    Oh Hayley YOU ARE BLOODY WONDERFUL!! I’m positive this is going to be an incredible year for you, even more so now that you know what your readers have known all along, you are way way way more than enough, you’re an incredible soul who inspires everyone on a daily basis. So thank you for being you and thank you for sharing that thought, particularly as we are all prone to comparison alllll the time.
    Peta x
    http://www.pe-ta.com

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 1:26 pm

      Oh girl thank you! <3 Your comments are always the sweetest, it really does mean the world! We really are, it's so hard to just focus on your own thing but it's been working out so well for me right now, start as you mean to go on lady! x

  9. Josie 21st April 2017 / 8:55 pm

    You Go Girl! You are absolutely MORE than enough! This is such an important realisation, that we all often forget I think, and it’s obviously had such a positive effect and brought you loads of exciting opportunities! Sometimes we all need that bit of time away to reconnect with ourselves!

    I love that flower quote! It’s so easy – especially in the social media/blogging world to get caught up in comparison with other bloggers and friends but so important to stay true to ourselves and not get too caught up in it if it makes us feel bad about ourselves, which will then come out in our work!

    Thanks so much for the reminder! Love your posts and I’m excited to see what you’ve got coming up!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 2:13 pm

      Love thank you for your amazing comment! I completely think so too; it’s so important to realise our worth isn’t measured by other peoples success! Thanks gorj! <3 x

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 2:15 pm

      Thanks lovely! x

  10. Gabrielle 22nd April 2017 / 9:57 pm

    I really love the positivity in this post. There’s nothing more inspiring than reading/hearing of how others have found happiness within themselves and feel ‘enough’. I’m not sure I’m quite there yet, but this post has certainly pushed me in the right direction! Beautifully written, Hayley 🙂

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 1:02 pm

      Oh girl thank YOU! <3 I'm so glad to hear this post has driven you in the right direction love, it's definitely not something that happens overnight as it took me so long to get there! x

  11. Sophie 23rd April 2017 / 9:50 am

    This is beautiful Hayley and so so true! You wrote about it so well. I love the flower quote at the end, it’s one I always return to when I get stuck on the comparison wagon.
    These photos are gorgeous by the way, and fit perfectly with the tone of the writing 🙂
    YOU ARE WONDERFUL.
    Sophie xxx
    http://www.sopharsogood.com

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 2:16 pm

      Thank you lovely! So glad everyone thought so! 🙂 I think it’s definitely a quote we all need to refer to from time to time! x

  12. Kerstin 23rd April 2017 / 12:53 pm

    Beautifully written girl. I cannot emphasize the importance of believing in yourself and being true to what you are enough. You truly are enough – that’s something that shouldn’t be hard to realize. Why do we always talk ourselves down?
    I think especially when you’re engaged in an online life you compare yourself A LOT. Definitely, something I need to work on myself.

    By the way, looking gorgeous in the pictures dear!

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • Hayley 23rd April 2017 / 2:16 pm

      Thank you girl – means the world coming from you! Couldn’t agree more love, it IS so hard as we live our lives online but it’s definitely something I’m going to practice from now 🙂 x

  13. Jenny Cole 24th April 2017 / 8:52 pm

    Great post lovely, and I’m so glad you’ve found peace with following your own path. I’m terrible for feeling that I’m not enough, and I totally get what you mean about scrolling through social media and feeling like a total failure. I try to take it a day at a time and look for the things I have to be grateful for. Yes, I think I’m always going to struggle with comparing myself to other people, but I just need to work even harder on giving myself a pat on the back for the things I achieve.

    Jenny xx

    http://www.jaffacat.co.uk

    • Hayley 25th April 2017 / 10:27 am

      Thank you lovely lady! I completely hear you, I’ve had to just stay away from it a bit more and even unfollow some people who I find myself comparing myself too; it doesn’t mean I don’t love them or their work – I just find that it’s not healthy for me to look at! Just do what feels right for you lovely, and remember that you are ALWAYS enough! <3 x

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