Why I’m Travelling Solo

Opening up about why I decided to book a solo trip to New York City! Words & pictures by Hayley...


Around 3 weeks ago I wrote this post on embracing spontaneity, one morning I woke up with the feeling that I needed to travel solo, and all I knew was that it had to happen, and sharpish. The next day I woke up and booked a flight in the sales to my favourite city in the world; New York!

In less than two weeks I head off on a six-day solo adventure to New York and I simply cannot wait. To some people six days is F all, friends of mine have travelled solo for a year or two, and I admire them and have loved following their journey; and I'm not saying it's not for me because oh my god I would love to do that, it's just not something that I've gotten round to doing just yet. My first solo trip was to Paris two years ago for two nights, I had an urge one day to take a solo trip and I honestly had the best time. I was gutted that last year I didn't get to travel solo so I knew that this year I needed to make it happen.

Today I wanted to open up a bit about why I booked a solo trip to New York...

First things first; I'm so incredibly happy with life right now - I have the most wonderful boyfriend, friends and family. I think that when I mention to people that I'm travelling solo; the first thoughts that cross their mind is 'maybe she's not happy' or 'maybe she has no-one else to go with', I can confirm that neither of those statements are true. In fact my best friend practically begged me to come along as she's dying to visit NYC, but I told her no, sorry but not this time. I want to travel alone, I absolutely adore travelling with other people but I also really love travelling alone.

There's just something about waking up when you want to, eating when and where you like, spending hours in a museum because no-one is waiting for you and judgement-free shopping *dreams of Gucci handbags*. I had this feeling that I was overdue another solo trip and when I booked it, I had this feeling that I genuinely can't describe, a feeling of wanderlust and desire, a feeling that I can't wait to head back to my favourite city and finally do it on my terms.

I flew from Gatwick earlier this week and when I arrived, I had this feeling of 'oh my god in two weeks time I'll be back here ready to head on my first solo adventure of 2017' and I literally felt like I was buzzing. I had the biggest smile on my face and butterflies in my stomach, I felt like I could have busted out a Hugh Grant dance from Love Actually (decided against it, but in my head I was dancing across the room to 'Jump'). I'm beyond ready to board that plane and embark on my adventure.

Am I scared? Not really. I know that of course it's not always safe to travel alone, but I would never let that put me off. Never let the fear hold you back from chasing your dreams! I don't plan on wandering the streets late at night, or putting myself into stupid situations, I think you know when something doesn't feel right, and if it doesn't then leave or go with your gut reaction and remove yourself from the situation. Am I excited? HELL YES!

"Every time I heard a sound of unknown origin or felt something horrible cohering in my imagination, I pushed it away. I simply did not let myself become afraid. Fear begets fear. Power begets power. I willed myself to beget power. And it wasn't long before I actually wasn't afraid." - Wild, Cheryl Strayed

People keep asking what my plans are, but I honestly don't have any. I have one meeting set up and brunch with a friend but other than that, I want to take my laptop and work in the Public Library, I want to stroll down Bleeker Street in search of fab food joints, I want to shop at my own leasure, I want to make friends with strangers, I want to read my book in the bath until I turn into a prune, I want to watch the sunrise of over the city, I want to spend hours in galleries admiring the art work, I want to sit in central park and people watch, I want to cross the Brooklyn Bridge and soak up every damn second of this wonderful city that I would one day love to call home! New York, I'll catch you in 10 days Boo - recommendations as always, are so very welcome! <3


Have you travelled solo before? What did you think? Do you have any 'must do' trips for my New York trip? I'd love to hear them! <3


  1. Eloise 29th January 2017 / 7:49 pm

    I’ve never travelled solo before, I like the idea of it but I reckon when it comes down to it I’d be too scared. So I admire you for your confidence to do it! Hope you have an awesome time! xx

    • Hayley 30th January 2017 / 11:17 am

      Thank you lovely, I’ll be putting together lots of advice and tips on travelling solo so hopefully one day you’ll be able to as well 🙂 x

  2. Amy 29th January 2017 / 9:33 pm

    These are absolutely stunning pictures Hayley! I’m sure you’ll have the best time in New York, I’d love to book a solo trip, but my boyfriend would probably beg to come along and I’m not sure I could say no haha! Hopefully someday though, there’s something that seems so relaxing about the idea!
    Amy xx

    • Hayley 30th January 2017 / 11:19 am

      Ah thank you lovely – the beautiful Ellie took them for me whilst we were in Paris 🙂 Haha my boyfriend/best friend are exactly the same, but sometimes a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! x

    • Hayley 30th January 2017 / 7:40 pm

      Thank you lovely – you plucked up the courage to travel with a stranger so I think you’ll be fine love! 🙂 Thank you, same! x

  3. Kerstin 30th January 2017 / 3:55 pm

    Absolutely loved reading this. I also want to go on a solo adventure this year and I simply cannot wait. It just sounds absolutely marvelous to me.

    Love, Kerstin

    • Hayley 30th January 2017 / 7:41 pm

      Thank you lady! I love following your journey and can’t wait to see where you visit love! 🙂 x

  4. BeauTeagenes 30th January 2017 / 9:46 pm

    wow I admire you for this! How exciting! I do like my own space however I don’t think I am brave enough to travel on my own, I am a bit of a wimp. Have the most amazing time lovely, I would love to see a blog post after on your experience. I have never been to NYC (Carys has) but I would love to go 🙂 xxxx


    • Hayley 30th January 2017 / 11:43 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment lady – means the world! You definitely are you just need to build up the confidence 🙂 I’ll be publishing lots of tips and advice so be sure to check back for those! 🙂 x

  5. Seyi 3rd February 2017 / 11:21 am

    I really like this post. Its kind of motivated me to try this this coming summer

    • Hayley 4th February 2017 / 3:10 pm

      So glad to hear that – hope you have the best time! 🙂 x

  6. Beth Norton 4th February 2017 / 3:29 pm

    Oh Hayley, I am SO excited for you girl! New York is my favourite city in the whole world and I know it’s yours too. I can’t wait to see your content, hear the stories but most of all know that you’re out there, happy and content. This time will be so valuable for you- I’m jealous! You’ve got me wanting to go back, very soon, on my own …

    Love always beautiful one.

    Beth x


  7. Heather Chambers 5th February 2017 / 11:56 pm

    I’ve never travelled alone, but am hoping to travel around the UK this Summer Solo, so I’ll see how that goes, I, like you, am actually so excited for it! 🙂 I hope you have a fab time in New York, I’m sure you will enjoy yourself! 🙂

    Heather Xx

  8. Mslondon 6th February 2017 / 11:47 am

    I love solo travel and did a round the world trip a few years back and got the travel bug. Don’t get me wrong I’d love to have people to travel with but won’t let that stop me or I’ll be the one missing out.

    Same for doing other things on my own. Cinema, theatre, whatever, just do it.

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