Why I’m Embracing Spontaneity In 2017


Talking about why this year I'm open to leading a spontaneous life, especially when it comes to travel!


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Last night I had a feeling that I needed to travel solo.

I went to sleep with the feeling that I needed to book a solo trip, and awoke with the feeling that I need to book a solo trip! I've only ever been on one solo trip, to Paris about two years ago. Back then, I had the same feeling and just felt like I needed to go, and I wanted to go in alone, so on a whim I booked a return on the Eurostar and spent two wonderful days exploring the streets of Paris.

This morning I woke up and booked a six day trip to my favourite city in the world; New York (nabbed an EPIC deal from Norwegian for £350 return FYI!). I'm honestly so, so excited to travel alone again, it's a feeling like no other! Being able to wake up when you want, do a little shopping, leave the museum when you're ready, eat when and when you like - even though travelling with partners, friends and colleagues is pretty darn awesome, for me travelling alone is just all kinds of wonderful and I genuinely believe that it's something everyone should experience once in their life.

I opted for NYC because 1.) it's the best city in the world, ever. Period. 2.) but also because I never feel like I've ever really done it on 'my terms' and I felt it was about time! I first travelled to NYC around 5 years ago on a trip with university, we were parading around various museums and shopping districts, my second trip was a day trip during a family holiday to New Jersey and my most recent trip to the Big Apple was with the wonderful Kat, but it was mainly a work trip as we were there to shoot some awesome campaigns.

So, I decided that I'm ready to go back, but this time I'm ready to do New York on my terms. Just me, myself and I (oh, and my camera OBV). I wanted to walk until my feet hurt, get lost on the vibrant streets, shop a little, eat delicious food, make friends and snap away until my heart is content. Photography is always something that I've loved but I never do it as much as I'd actually like to. So New York to me is a break of sorts, to just wander the streets, camera in hand and to create content until my heart is happy (which OBV it will be because there's Sephora and Pancakes the size of my face, so that's cool!).

I'm also going to be working on some posts about travelling alone, like I said, I've only ever travelled solo once and it was a two-day trip to Paris so I am NOT sitting here claiming to be miss solo traveller of the year because LOLZ that is definitely NOT me, however, I did have the courage to travel alone once, and I gained the courage to book another solo trip, this time a little further from home and for 6 days instead of 2. But, I did it, I decided that I wanted to go to New York city and that I didn't want to let anyone stop or interfere with my plans, so I went ahead and booked it, and girl, you CAN to!

So many people have been tweeting me saying that they wished they were brave or confident enough to book a solo trip, but I want to tell you that you ARE brave enough. Sometimes we can surprise ourselves with what we're capable of, but trust me when I say, if you step outside of that comfort zone, it's the most exhilarating feeling ever! Why go through life, doing stuff that makes you feel safe? Or that you already know what the outcome is? Don't get me wrong I know it's not for everyone and for some people the idea genuinely terrifies them. BUT I truly believe that it's something everyone should try once in their life, so go on lady, book that trip! Start with a day trip or something small like I did with Paris?! You'll be travelling the world solo in no time! 😉

I've made a decision that this year I'm going to be much more open to spontaneous trips, I want to live an unexpected and unplanned life, because that's what excited me, keeps the fire burning inside. And that essentially, is what I live for! Last year I felt like I kind of got swept along on this super fast ride, and I couldn't find the breaks. Whilst 2016 was ultimately the best year of my life and I travelled extensively (to 15 destinations to be exact, more on that here!), it felt like such a whirlwind, jumping from place to place, with barely enough time to re pack my suitcase in between. As much as I had a blast, I've decided this year it's time to slow the ride down a tad, think about what I really want and where I really want to travel to.

I'm so glad that I have the girls on board to help, as I'm planning to expand the travel section of FMIF extensively, it won't just be me doing all of the travelling. This year I'm doing me, I'm putting myself first and travelling to destinations that I've always wanted to visit; Canada and Japan being the first to tick off my list (hit a girl up with tips if you have any, coz I'm ALL ears!).

There we have it girls, my upcoming trip to NYC (which is next month FYI so keep your eyes peeled!), where I'll be returning to my FAV place in search of making and capturing new memories, alone - and there ain't no one else I'd rather be with!

If you're thinking of booking a solo trip girls, all I gotta say is DO IT! I promise you'll have the time of your life!

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Have you travelled solo before? Where did you visit? Have you been to New York? I'm so excited to take you all along on my journey!

66 Comments

  1. Lucy 4th January 2017 / 7:00 pm

    That’s an amazing deal!! I’ve been wanting to go back to NYC for ages, it’s just incredible! The thing that holds me back from solo travel most is eating out alone – it’s so stupid but I just worry it’d be a really awkward experience! Very in awe of you and perhaps I will try it one day 🙂 xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Life, Travel, Italy

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:53 am

      Ah no it’s not silly love, I used to think that but then I’d just eat out for lunch/dinner on my own and take baby steps. Just go shopping one day on your own and have lunch – no-one bats an eye! I just take a good book to get stuck into and go for it! x

  2. shannon 4th January 2017 / 7:27 pm

    Sounds amazing, I can’t wait to read all about it x

    lifeinthefashionlanee.blogspot.com

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:52 am

      Thank you love – super excited to be writing all about it! 🙂 x

  3. Jessica 4th January 2017 / 8:06 pm

    I’ve been wanting to travel alone for so long! Sometimes I just think I need it, I need some alone time. I might try to do so in 2017 x

    Jessica — NinetyCo 

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:51 am

      Definitely do love, it’s honestly the best feeling! x

  4. Amy 4th January 2017 / 8:33 pm

    I’m also embracing spontaneity this year and travelling solo is something I miss so much. Isn’t it weird that once the idea of jetting off somewhere on your own enters your find, you just can’t seem to shake it? I visited New York last March but did all the generic, tourist things like Top Of The Rock, Times Square etc. I’d love to go back and explore Brooklyn and ‘live’ like a local. Have a great trip and I’m looking forward to reading all about it 🙂

    Amy | http://www.whatamydid.com

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:49 am

      It really is so weird, I felt like I was just carrying it around and I couldn’t stop thinking about it so I just had to do it! I think I’ll stay in Brooklyn too, I stayed there last time and loved it! Thank you lovely! x

  5. Jessica Chelsea 4th January 2017 / 9:58 pm

    Ok ok – I will let you go by yourself – just this once.

    HAVE THE BEST TIME!! You have totally inspired me to book somewhere for myself. I have never ever travelled totally solo so maybe I will do just that.

    Jess xxx

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:48 am

      Hahahaha lady you crack me up! Thank you beautiful! Yes do it, you’ll have the best time! City breaks are perfect for solo travel.. helloooooo shopping! x

  6. Emma 4th January 2017 / 10:35 pm

    I have always wanted to visit NYC and it is still definitely on my list! I would love to do a solo trip this year, even if it is just to London for a night!

    Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:47 am

      I think that would be perfect lovely, always good to start small then build the courage and take the plunge for the next trip! x

  7. Josie 5th January 2017 / 12:24 am

    I would absolutely love to take a solo trip one day, like you say it’d be good to do it on your own terms. I’m fine with taking myself off to London day trips or to the cinema alone (did someone say introvert?!) so hopefully I’ll take the plunge and do some travelling one day! Hope you have the best time x

    Sick Chick Chic

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:47 am

      I hope you do lady – I think you’ll love it so much! Definitely, I think taking small steps is the perfect way to do it! Thank you 🙂 x

  8. Jana 5th January 2017 / 1:32 am

    I travel solo all the time and love it! And I’ve never been afraid of being alone, not matter if I travel in the US or through southeast Turkey close to the Syrian border.
    Also I’ve been to New York City many times – it is one of my favorite city. I’m sure you’ll have lots of fun there!

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:46 am

      Thank you love! Same, I enjoy my own company and think it’s really important too! Sounds like you’ve had some wonderful travels! x

  9. Johnnielynn 5th January 2017 / 4:09 am

    That sounds amazing. I went to New York once with school when I was 14 and it was amazing. I’d love to go on a solo trip, but I couldn’t do it. Mainly because I think it would disappoint my family. And I think just leaving would kind of freak them out and make them worry that I’m loosing it. But it’s great that you’re going. I hope you have a lot of fun.
    xojohnnielynn

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    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:45 am

      Ah I hope you are able to one day, it’s such an amazing experience! Thank you! 🙂 x

    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 10:16 am

      Oh lady thank you! x

  10. Immy May 5th January 2017 / 10:34 am

    YES GAL! How exciting, I need to save up a few pennies so I can do the same. I went out to NYC solo when I was 20, it was the most scary but liberating experience ever! I absolutely love getting lost in cities, stumbling across amazing gems and meeting incredible people. What a way to kick off 2017. Immy x

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    • Hayley 5th January 2017 / 11:54 am

      Girl your comments ALWAYS make me smile – you’re such a babe! So glad you had the best time lovely, I’m so excited! x

  11. Sophie 5th January 2017 / 11:59 am

    Ahhhhh, I’m so excited for you!!! I’m definitely going to plan a solo trip this year xxx
    Sophie Cliff

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 12:57 pm

      Thank you beauty! Yes do – I can’t wait to follow your travels! xz

  12. Kerstin 5th January 2017 / 12:51 pm

    Oh I’ve been wanting to travel solo for the longest time. Last week, when I was writing down my goals for the year I somehow KNEW that this would be the year to do it for me. So I’m quite looking forward to your posts about traveling solo. Now I only have to decide where I want to go – maybe London, my favourite city in the world?

    Love, Kerstin
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    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 12:58 pm

      So glad to hear that lady – I’ll be sure to work on lots of solo posts and hope they inspire you to travel solo! Yes to London – let me know if you’re visiting and we can grab coffee! x

  13. Elise 5th January 2017 / 1:38 pm

    I took my first solo trip in December 2016, to Paris also. It was great, its so good to do things on your own term and to be alone for a while. I am going to definitely go on a solo trip again soon.
    Have fun in New York, thats an amazing deal you have got.

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    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 12:58 pm

      Paris is a great first time solo destination isn’t it?! I completely agree love, I really enjoy my own company and I think that’s a great quality to have! I hope you have a wonderful year! x

  14. Amy 5th January 2017 / 2:24 pm

    You are so brave doing NY solo and I’m sure you’ll have the BEST time! That’s so insanely cheap as well, I think it’s probably time I started looking at flights to New York,,,
    Amy xx
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    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 12:59 pm

      Thank you lovely – I really can’t wait! Isn’t it just?! I had to take advantage of the offer if was just so cheap! x

  15. Katy 5th January 2017 / 3:10 pm

    I LOVE this Hayley!!! Hilariously, I’m doing the opposite. I’m always about the spontaneous, but this year I want to get to grips with planning and being a bit more organised about things. I think it will be a good challenge for me! 🙂

    Also: YES JAPAN. Me and the Bangarang girls are going in Autumn and I’m so excited I could sing. xx

    Little Miss Katy | Lifestyle, Food & Travel

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 12:59 pm

      Thank you lady! Oh girl I am SO excited for you (and jealous because I’m dying to visit!), but I’m determined to make it happen this year!! Can’t wait to follow your trip girl! x

  16. Emily 5th January 2017 / 6:18 pm

    I decided last week that I wanted to do a solo weekend trip to Canada in Feb! The thing I’m most scared of is eating alone (lol is that stupid?) and when I told my mom my plan she didn’t react well to it :/

    Hope you have a blast on your trip!

    x Emily || http://www.lifestyleofemily.com

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:00 pm

      Ah I think you should go for it lovely! No it’s not weird at all, honestly! I’d say go for dinner locally on your own, just to get used to it – baby steps are a great way to solo travel! Once you feel comfortable eating on your own it won’t seem like such a big deal – I hope you have the best time! 🙂 x

  17. Alexandra 5th January 2017 / 8:16 pm

    I’ve actually never travelled solo before (although i’m only 21 so I still have a long time ahead of me! ahaha) and i’ve never been to New York but I NEED to go asap!! How many days would you recommend? xx

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    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:01 pm

      You have plenty of time my love – you’ll have the best time when you decide to go! I’d say 4/5 days in NYC is perfect! 🙂 x

  18. Suze - Luxury Columnist 5th January 2017 / 8:26 pm

    You’ll have an amazing time in New York. I used to travel solo quite a lot and I love it, you get to choose exactly what you want to do and when!

    Suze | LuxuryColumnist

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:04 pm

      Thank you lovely, completely agree – it’s so liberating isn’t it?! x

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:04 pm

      Thank you lovely! 🙂 x

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:04 pm

      Ah thank you love! x

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:04 pm

      Thank you love! 🙂 x

  19. Amanda 9th January 2017 / 11:55 am

    That sounds really amazing! I think solo travel is so good for you since it forces you out of your comfort zone. (Plus you only prioritise what you want to do there, right? 😉 ) x

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    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:05 pm

      Exactly that love! I absolutely can’t wait to step outside of my comfort zone and explore! x

  20. bee 9th January 2017 / 12:48 pm

    I’ve never, ever travelled solo abroad before. I just haven’t felt the need to as I’ve always had a travelling companion, ie. the husband. Maybe I need to try it sometime? Where would you recommend?
    Bee | QueenBeady.com

    • Hayley 9th January 2017 / 1:07 pm

      Yes you should lovely – it’s so liberating and exciting! I’ve only ever travelled solo to Paris but I think it’s a great starter as it’s super close to home and everyone speaks great English, plus the Metro is easy to navigate so it doesn’t feel too indifferent from the UK! x

  21. Dannielle 9th January 2017 / 5:22 pm

    I am so with you! I actually quit my graduate job on a whim to move to NYC and piss about for a few months, and I had a blast! I did quite a few spontaneous solo trips abroad last year and hope to continue in 2017. xx

    • Hayley 10th January 2017 / 1:16 pm

      Oh girl this is my DREAM to move to NYC – sounds like you had the best time! x

  22. Beth Norton 9th January 2017 / 5:51 pm

    Oh Hayley you’ll have the BEST time. I literally got back from New York this morning! It’s my favourite city in the whole world, it makes my heart so happy.

    Good on you for going alone, that time away will be so special and valuable. I’ve only ever taken one solo trip but I absolutely loved it! I can’t wait to go away again by myself.

    Can’t wait to see your photos gorgeous, I hope you have the most wonderful time.

    Lots of love always x

    http://www.bethnorton.co.uk

    • Hayley 10th January 2017 / 1:17 pm

      Oh lady same, I love it their so, so much!! Thank you beauty, I’m so excited to go – I can’t wait! 🙂 x

  23. Sarah 9th January 2017 / 11:32 pm

    I think my friend and I are going to go to New York in June, she’s been before but it’ll be my first time. I’m thinking of finding somewhere to go in may for a wee solo trip, it’ll be my first shot at it so hopefully I go through with it

    • Hayley 10th January 2017 / 1:17 pm

      You’ll have the best time – it’s an amazing city! Take the plunge lovely, you’ll have a great time! x

  24. Sabiha 10th January 2017 / 7:33 pm

    I’ve never travelled solo before but completely agree sometimes you have to do things that take you right out of your comfort zone x

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    • Hayley 12th January 2017 / 11:11 am

      Definitely love, this is out of my comfort zone to travel so far alone for 6 days but I can’t wait to embrace it! 🙂 x

  25. Freya 10th January 2017 / 8:28 pm

    Ok so these photos are just too fabulous! I definitely need to add some spontaneity to my weekends – thanks for the tips lovely x

    Frey de Fleur | http://www.freydefleur.com

    • Hayley 12th January 2017 / 11:12 am

      Thank you lovely lady! Same, such a wonderful feeling! x

  26. Abbie 14th January 2017 / 1:45 pm

    Ooooh, awesome hun, NYC – so jel! And go you, can’t wait to see the pics xx

    abbieloves.com

    • Hayley 15th January 2017 / 2:16 pm

      Thank you lovely I’m so, so excited! x

  27. SofiaaDot 15th January 2017 / 9:16 am

    Yesss traveling alone is amazing and so essential!! Love the spontaneous trip to New York!!!

    xx Sofia | SOFIAADOT

    • Hayley 15th January 2017 / 2:16 pm

      Isn’t it just my love? Best thing I ever did, can’t wait to explore again solo! x

  28. Abigail Alice 15th January 2017 / 10:09 am

    Oh i loved this post Hayley, so inspiring & NYC of all places, definitely!
    Also love your picture in this post!! AA x

    • Hayley 15th January 2017 / 2:17 pm

      Thank you beautiful – can’t wait to escape on my own again! x

  29. Brooklyn Murtaugh 25th January 2017 / 8:22 pm

    I LOVE solo travel! I traveled solo a week in Australia (although I did live there at the time) and a week in New Zealand. I rented a car in NZ and just drove around to whatever attractions I wanted. It was two of the best weeks of my life!
    I’m pretty sure I’ll be traveling solo to Iceland sometime within the next year or so as no one wants to go with me. But that’s fine!

    If you ever head to Vancouver let me know!

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    • Hayley 25th January 2017 / 8:40 pm

      That sounds awesome!! Yes I will do love, it’s on my bucket list this year so I’ll be sure to drop you a message if I make it! 🙂 I bloody loved Iceland – such a beautiful country! x

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