Why Is Wedding Planning Just SO Difficult?

To get married in the UK? Time of year? Date? Dress? WHY is wedding planning just so darn difficult?! - Words by Susie / Picture by Hayley...

I can barely plan what I'm having for dinner so this is big scary stuff for someone that has the logistical skills of a garden snail. I seem to be able to plan stuff for other people but when it comes to me... Hello?! Mind blank. Brain stops. Cogs refuse to turn. So I get bored, make a cup of tea and help myself to another biscuit...

I think I was born without 'that' gene. You know the one? The Wedding Gene. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE weddings. I do all that soppy stuff like crying into a ball of overused tissues, ending up with tiny white kleenex flecks all over my face, drinking too much too early and making a complete twit of myself. Standard wedding behaviour. But I've never imagined myself as a bride. Which is why I think I'm struggling.

We have at least decided on a date.. 18:08:18. I'm half Chinese (well, Singaporean) and for those of you that know, in Chinese culture, the number 8 is very auspicious. So whilst I am about as traditional to my Chinese roots as a portion of fish and chips, it's a nod to my dads culture which keeps him happy.

The major decision I am struggling with is location. Home or abroad?! Taking into consideration my total lack of event planning skills, surely somewhere in the UK would be better? But then there's that old climate issue we are all too familiar with... Precipitation. Or bastard rain as I sometimes refer to it as.

So abroad we look.. And.. oh my.. What a mind bending amount of choice there is! I have to lie down. With tea. And biscuits.

If money were no object, my idea of a perfect wedding scene would be the one from Twilight - Breaking Dawn. I know. It sounds so super cheese but, I mean, talk about dreamy! White wisteria cascading like a floral waterfall against the rugged forest and wooden seating for that rustic feel... *sigh*... Even the table centre pieces were to..die..for.. (excuse the pun).

I've tried to imagine recreating something similar, in one of the many beautiful forests we have in this country. And then I look outside. And it's raining. And cold. And miserable. And whilst that's great for vampires... I'm not sure I want to risk it...


  1. Hanh 23rd September 2016 / 10:02 am

    I’m Vietnamese and my husband is Chinese so I’m familiar with those cultural traditions! Thankfully both of our parents were relaxed and left us to our own devices for our wedding, which makes it easier!

    We had rain on our wedding in August – it’s meant to be Summer, you can never win! Obviously do what you guys want, cliche advice but once the day is over is really is all about you two 😀

    • Hayley 23rd September 2016 / 1:51 pm

      Thank you for your comment Hanh, so glad that you’re parents were relaxed and were happy for you to go ahead and plan your perfect day. Definitely, need to get some brainstorming going! 🙂 x

  2. Madeline 23rd September 2016 / 1:27 pm

    As a bride to be, with my nuptials set for next month, I can totally relate to the struggle associated with wedding planning. And to make it that little bit more interesting…I decided to give myself ten months to pull it all off!

    I am wishing you all the best with wedding planning!


    • Hayley 23rd September 2016 / 1:51 pm

      I’m so glad I’m not alone Madeline! There is SO much to think of, ten months – wow, you go girl! I have just under 2 years so plenty of time, just now where to start! x

    • Hayley 25th September 2016 / 3:55 pm

      Indeed lovely! There’s just so much to think about! x

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