Why learning to love yourself is the most important lesson you’ll ever learn…
“The moment you accept yourself you become beautiful” – Osho
This weekend just past marked a day of love; Valentine’s Day, but it really got me thinking, we mark a day out of the year to declare our love and affection for someone special, but do we show ourselves enough love?
I’m hard on myself sometimes, maybe a little too hard, but maybe as hard as the next person. If I don’t get a post up one day, or that tweet scheduled, or that email answered too, I feel guilty and wish I’d been more organised, or utilised my time more. Truth be told, I would consider myself to be a creative person, sometimes I’ll stay up until 1am writing and brainstorming because I’m full of ideas that I cannot wait to put into action, other times, my brain is like the sahara desert.
Being a creative being, I feel like I can’t force ideas or work. If the ideas aren’t flowing then I don’t ever want to force it, I’d feel unhappier with myself posting shit content than not posting at all. I find it hard to enjoy down time with friends, family or my boyfriend if I’m behind with work. I’m constantly checking my phone/emails/social media and not enjoying IRL time as much because I feel like I could have done more.
But, it recently dawned on me, more often than not, I’m always going to feel like I could have done more, blogging is one of those jobs where your job is never really complete, there’s always going to be something else you can do, whether it’s coming up with your next idea, replying to 10 more emails or scheduling further social media. I’ve decided to not be so hard on myself from now on, I work best when I’m not under pressure or stress, the last person that will be putting it on me from now on, is me.
I feel like one of the most important lessons I’ve learnt in my life (the last year particularly) is to not be so hard on yourself and love yourself, after all, how can you expect anyone to love you if you don’t love yourself? Now I’m not saying be vein, but show yourself the love you deserve, physically and emotionally. Allow yourself that down time, a treat, a new hair do, cut yourself some slack, read a book, however you feel happiest, make sure you allow time for it.
After all, you are the only person, that can truly make yourself happy. It’s the most exhilarating feeling when we find a partner that we’re lucky enough to call our best friend, our soul mate and to want to spend the rest of our life with. But sometimes, life is unpredictable and things change. Be complete and happy with yourself, as at the end of the day, you’re the one who can make yourself truly happy, have your own back and you’ll make yourself stronger by surviving situations that you never thought possible.
There are always going to be aspects of our lives that we aren’t quite 100% with, whether it’s work, money, our appearance, relationships, the list goes on. It’s so easy to get sucked into a negative way of thinking sometimes, that we forget to focus on the positives. If you haven’t bought a house yet like the rest of your friends? So what! Don’t see yourself as a failure, just know that your time will come. Don’t kick yourself because you skipped the gym today, praise yourself for actually going and focusing on feeling better about yourself.
Our lives are way to precious to constantly be focusing on what we could have done better, learn to love yourself for how far you’ve come, goals you’ve achieved, sites you’ve seen, stamps you’ve collected in your passport, and memories made that you’ll never forget. I still have to pinch myself that I left school 9 years ago, time flies so quickly, so make sure that you’re being kind to yourself as life sometimes isn’t always as kind.
I shot these pictures whilst I was in Spain, I’ve never done an lingerie shoot before and I wasn’t entirely comfortable doing it, but what I am comfortable with is myself, I wanted these pictures to be real, as I am, this is me. I bruise like a peach, I have more cellulite that I care to admit, and I have wobbly bits just like the best of us. I don’t go to the gym as much as I should, but you know what? I love me for me, and that’s all that matters! I’m learning to fall in love with myself and first things first, I’m not going to be so hard on myself!
“Be gentle with yourself, you’re doing the best you can”
Remember to always draw positives from any situation and let’s not be so hard on ourselves, eh?