#TipsTuesday: Why YOU Are The Only Person Holding Yourself Back

Yesterday I flew to Spain on my own.
My second solo trip and I felt so liberated.
I hired a car and drove abroad for the first time. It took me two hours to get to my hotel but oh my, it was so worth it (head over to @Frockmeimfamous for tonnes of holiday spam, SOZ BOUT IT!). 
People always seem so shocked when I tell them I’m going away on my own. They ask why I didn’t want to take someone with me. Or tell me how brave I am. Or that they couldn’t never do ‘something like that’.
But it’s not true, you can do it. 
The past year has taught me a hell of a lot, but one thing I’ve really come to grips with is that the only person truly holding yourself back is YOU.
I had an amazing opportunity presented to me to visit a new hotel opening. The only catch was that the hotel was nearly two hours from the airport. My options were to hire a car and drive or not go.
I thought to heck with that am I going to miss out on this dream adventure.
Yes I was nervous (shitting myself actually) as I’d never driven abroad apart from a brief experience driving our road buggies in France.
But I kept thinking, I’m actually going to be driving abroad, on the road side of the road, in a car that’s foreign to me. Everything felt foreign.
But I did it and it was the best decision I could have made. Yes it was a little daunting at first, but driving is driving and a lot of the time we do it without thinking and it actually felt natural after a while. You just forget that you’re sitting on the ‘wrong side’ of the car and driving on the ‘wrong side’ of the road.
As a result of deciding to hire a car and drive abroad I’m now sitting in the most incredible hotel room working away from home for a week. 
I guess the point of this post is that I just wanted to let you know that you can do what you desire, don’t let your dreams be dreams, make them into reality. No matter how big or small it is, some people may think that driving abroad isn’t a big deal but to me it was a decision I didn’t take lightly but it was one I was so glad I made.
I turned my hobby into my career, I’m taking every opportunity with open arms and not turning anything down because after all, who’s knows where that opportunity may lead? It maybe the start of something beautiful, and exciting and exhilarating. And that’s the beauty with the unknown.
That’s why for now, I’m embracing anything and everything that comes my way!
I’m not going to be the person that stops me, nor should you!<3

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  1. S, x 8th December 2015 / 1:42 pm

    LOVE THIS! This is just what I needed to read today. Hope you have the fabbest, loveliest week <3 xxx

    Sophie Cliff

    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:28 am

      Ah thank you lady, hope you're feeling better! <3 x

    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:31 am

      Thank you lovely! It was pretty daunting but SO worth it! x

  2. alittlekiran 8th December 2015 / 9:28 pm

    That does sound like an amazing opportunity and I am glad you took it. I think it does take some guts to travel alone because it means you have no choice but to depend on yourself. I have spent time alone on holidays and it feels oddly liberating, one day I hope I'll have the courage to hop on a plane and plan a little excursion on my own. Amazing blog!

    Kiran | http://www.alittlekiran.co.uk

    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:32 am

      Thank you girl, I 100% recommend you take the plunge, you'll have an amazing time! 🙂 x

  3. Abigail Alice 9th December 2015 / 7:32 am

    So great that you're experiencing these amazing things because of travelling solo! I recently moved from the UK to Los Angeles to start at UCLA and I'm loving it!

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    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:32 am

      Ah thanks love! God that's amazing – bet you're having a blast, well done lovely 🙂 x

  4. Frey de Fleur 10th December 2015 / 11:04 am

    Today I was feeling a bit down after breaking up with my boyfriend and getting rejected for a job so I headed to your blog looking for some feel good posts. This is just what I needed to read! Good for you for going on your way. It's great to enjoy your own company and something I'm going to do more in 2016 x


    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:34 am

      Sending you all of the love girl! <3 It is so important to enjoy your own company and you're one of the best eggs so enjoy it lovely! x

  5. Josie Brownlee 10th December 2015 / 11:18 am

    Such a great post, I've just come across your blog and I love it! I am too terrified of when I have to drive in a foreign country but thanks for the vote of confidence. You're totally right, we shouldn't stand in the way of our dreams just because some bits are a little scary!

    JosieVictoriaa // josievictoriaa.blogspot.co.uk // Lifestlye, Travel and Fashion

    • Hayley Rubery 14th December 2015 / 8:39 am

      Ah thanks gorge, so glad you discovered my blog 🙂 100% I think we have to push ourselves to step out of our comfort zone to fully appreciate the highs! x

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