Girls, I wanted to take a moment to explain why you and I have got this. Why it’s time to realise how amazing you are. How you don’t need any man in your life to make you happy. Yes, it’s the most amazing feeling to find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and to make memories with.
But, there’s a difference between want and need. I see it all around me, my mum, friends, people who stay with their partners because it’s convenient, easy, because ‘what else are they supposed to do’. It makes me sad because it’s time we re-evaluated our self worth and the respect we hold for ourselves.
After all, if you don’t respect yourself, how will other people respect?
Now, I’m not saying any relationship is perfect (mine certainly wasn’t but they were a cracking six years of my life and not once did I feel like I was settling). After coming out of a six year relationship it’s made me realise now more than ever that it’s okay to be alone, you really are stronger than you realise.
And it’s also okay to hold out for ‘the one’ – after a long term relationship I have no time for fuck boys looking to waste my time. I want to be swept off my feet, to be treated like a princess. And that’s okay. I’ll hold out for the guy who makes me feel like I’m the only girl in the world. Because that’s what I deserve. And you do to.
Don’t let anyone let you think otherwise. Girl, you’re beautiful, both inside and out. You’re strong and independent. Don’t let anyone treat you like a doormat, or make you feel like you’re always in the wrong, or never bring you flowers. Let that guy treat you like a princess, because that’s the least you deserve.
And you know what? If he can’t treat you like that, then girl, he ain’t worth your time!
The other day I realised that if I spent the rest of my life alone, I would be lonely but I wouldn’t be unhappy. The key to happiness is being happy with yourself first, to truly be happy with someone else. We all want someone to love, to have country walks on a Sunday with, someone to look after us when we’re Ill *ahem hungover, but we don’t need them.
And that’s the best part when you do find someone, it’s because you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not because you just can’t be alone.
Girl, don’t be scared to wait out for the guy who changes your life in ways you could never imagine, in the meantime focus on yourself and achieving exactly what you want from life and the rest will fall into place.
Girl, you got this! <3