A few weeks back I poured my heart into this blog post about a rough breakup I was going through, I’ve just re-read the post and it’s so hard for me to read as my emotion was so raw and apparent at the time but it felt like a weight being lifted off my shoulders sharing it with you guys. I wanted the post to offer support for anyone going through the same thing as me and felt like I wanted to be honest about my situation so you would all know I hadn’t fallen off the earth with my absence. The comments left on my blog post were so touching and truly overwhelming – I’m going to sit down now and reply to each and every one of them because without the strength you offered me at my time of need I don’t know how I would of got through those first few days. 

I wanted to fast forward four weeks and give you a life update of what’s going on with me now, I can honestly say that I feel so, so much better than I did back then. I knew in my heart that those first few days were always going to be the worse that I’d ever feel, the days were so long and drawn out I felt like they would never end and my grieving heart would never heal. But it is and I know that now, as each and every day that pasts there’s something exciting going on, a song that reminds me of happier times and little things that put a smile on my face – and each time I smile I know that I’ll be okay again. I surrounded myself with the most amazing friends and work colleagues and realised that it’s not the end of the world, I’ll be okay and one day I’ll love someone again. 

Once all this happened it really opened my eyes to the fact that I’m the one who is control of my life and my happiness from now on. I wrote a post the other day on wanderlust and how it’s always been a part of my life but something that was never a priority, I’ve always been itching to leave and travel, to explore the unknown and make memories in places across the globe.

So, the other week I made a bold decision to hand in my notice into work, I cried as I did it as part of me didn’t want to leave. I adore my job and the beautiful girls I work with but something told me that now was the time to start living the rest of my life and to open a new chapter. I’ve wanted to blog full time for a while now so I bit the bullet and I’m going for it, I have no idea what the future holds but I feel like if I never try, I’ll never know. And if it doesn’t work? Well then I’ll just get another job. My plan for the next year or two is to travel, a lot, to take my laptop, my passport, my heart and discover the world and take you guys along for the ride.

Everyone keeps telling me how ‘brave’ I was to hand in my notice and to follow my dreams, I don’t feel brave, I feel scared and apprehensive but also excited for the unknown. I love not knowing what the future holds but it’s exciting to watch it unfold before my eyes. All I know is that I’m so grateful and fortunate to have an attempt to turn my hobby into my job and to travel along the way, I really will be living out my dream, but then again, isn’t that what life is all about? 

Live your dream and no-one else’s, don’t let anyone stand in your way or tell you that you can’t because the most beautiful lesson that I’ve learnt lately is that you can do whatever you want, you’re capable of anything it’s just that you need to realise your potential and follow your heart!

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  1. Emma Heapy 19th July 2015 / 4:49 pm

    Ah good on you Hayley. You will do so well! I wish I could hand my notice in and blog full time too but unfortunately is just isn't an option πŸ™ xx
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    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:36 am

      Thanks lovely lady! Just glad that i'm still living at home and I can try it – if it doesn't work I'll just get a job again πŸ™‚ x

  2. Mantenso 19th July 2015 / 7:10 pm

    The bravest thing anyone can do is to do things which inspire fear, but do them nonetheless. Good luck with everything I wish you the best of luck, and I look forward to reading more posts in the future.
    Mantenso xx

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:37 am

      Thank you – what a lovely comment! πŸ™‚ x

  3. Lauren S 19th July 2015 / 8:28 pm

    This is amazing Hayley, congratulations! I've only been a reader for a few months but Ally always raves about you and from reading your posts I can tell you're going to be amazing as a FT blogger – here's to a brilliant journey πŸ™‚

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Food Beauty

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:37 am

      Ah thanks lovely – Ally is SUCH a babe, love her! Thank you for reading and all your lovely comments, hope you enjoy the FT journey πŸ™‚ x

  4. glenka 19th July 2015 / 8:34 pm

    I am so glad to hear that things are starting to pick up for you again. You are right we all have to live our lives for ourselves and don't let anyone tell us otherwise. I hope it all goes well for you in this next chapter of your life. It sounds like it is going to be very exciting for you. I shall look forward to hearing about what you get up to next.
    Take care and all the best.

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:48 am

      Thank you so much Kelly for your lovely comment, it means so much! I completely agree and can't wait to see what the future has in store! x

  5. PinkChickClaire 19th July 2015 / 10:00 pm

    Oh Hayley! I am sooooo pleased that you feel better. What happened to you was awful – but you're doing the right thing. My dream would be to blog full time, I'm not enjoying my current full time job and I have so many things that I want to do instead. I'm excited to see where your life takes you next, and come along for the ride!! Lots of love to you. Claire xxxxxx

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:49 am

      Thanks so much lovely lady – I genuinely can't believe it was nearly three months ago, so crazy! Each day gets easier and the trip was just what I needed! Thanks love, so glad to have you along for the ride! xxx

  6. Martha Edwards 19th July 2015 / 10:03 pm

    I only just read your previous post. It's truly awful what happened to you, but it is so relieving to hear that you're on the mend and taking control of your life! We all learn and grow from these experiences, even though we shouldn't have to go through them, but I wish you the best of luck <3 x

    Martha Jane |

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:49 am

      Thank you Martha for your lovely comment, it really was awful and a horrible time but I'm coming out the other side now and am really excited for what my future has in store! x

  7. S, x 20th July 2015 / 11:16 am

    This is so inspiring! What a way to come out dancing from a horrible situation – you might not feel brave but you are incredibly strong xxx

    • Hayley Rubery 25th August 2015 / 7:50 am

      Thanks so much love, that means so much! It's the only way I knew how to handle the situation and feel so much better about it all now! x

  8. Hayley Carr 20th July 2015 / 1:39 pm

    Good luck! Make those memories and enjoy your life to the full.. x

  9. Beth Lodge 20th July 2015 / 2:15 pm

    Wow good luck lovely! I've read your blog for a while now and love it – your content is always so original and your photography is gorgeous so you deserve to be able to turn it into a job πŸ™‚ Have fun travelling and I hope everything goes as you want it to πŸ™‚

    Beth x
    Bethany Georgina

  10. Erin Russell 20th July 2015 / 7:55 pm

    I will repeat now what I said four weeks ago "sometime things have to go wrong in order to go right"

    So glad to see you have done so much and changed so much over the past four weeks, I would describe your actions as courage. Doing something you know that is right even if you are absolutely terrified – you still took that step.

    So happy to see you move on from this in a positive way. And will look forward to reading all your adventures over the next few years πŸ™‚

  11. abigailalicex 20th July 2015 / 8:40 pm

    You are starting steps to live your dream and that definitely is brave! It's something that not many people do in their lifetime. I wish you all the best.

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  12. Yasmin Rebecca 27th July 2015 / 8:41 am

    This is an amazing post and although it is a "bold" decision and think it's completely right! So what if it doesn't work – you can get another job but I think you're about to embark on a life-changing journey and there's nothing to hold you back. Please throw your all into it and when it gets tough just remember all the reasons you're there!! Good luck with everything I can't wait to watch your blog and see all the amazing things you get up to! xxx

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