Back in September I had an out of the blue urge to travel alone so I decided to book a last minute trip to Paris! Even though several members of my family and friends may have thought I was having a mini life crisis, I defied all odds, hopped on the Eurostar and spent three days in Paris which was an incredibly liberating experience – here’s my advice on why you should travel alone…

You learn that it’s okay to be on your own: I have to admit it was so daunting at first, even when I sat down on the Eurostar my first thought was ‘what have I done?’ but the second I arrived in Paris I knew I’d made the right choice. I’m in a happy, steady relationship, have some incredible friends and family but I realised it’s okay to want to do something on your own – several people almost felt sorry for me at first and were shocked when I said I wanted to go alone. Through life we meet some amazing people along the way, some who stay and some who don’t but for me this trip was about being comfortable in my own skin and learning to love yourself; I believe it’s important to learn to be happy by yourself before you can be truly happy with others. 

It’s on your terms; do what you want, when you want and take your time doing it: It was such a refreshing feeling waking up each day of my trip and thinking what do I want to do today? It was okay to have a lie in if I wanted to, to switch off from the online world or to take too long browsing in Zara (come on Hayley, you’re in Paris stop shopping!) – there was no-one to rush me or to negotiate my plans with, it’s all on your terms and it’s a wonderful, wonderful feeling to explore by yourself.

Time to reflect: I feel like it was almost a mini life crisis that drove me to book my trip to Paris (more on that next week) but I felt like I really needed time out, away from the hustle and stresses of everyday life and to take a step back and to not have to think about everything for a few days. If I’d have taken my trip with someone there’s a good chance I’d have stewed over my problems or worries with them where as travelling alone allowed me to enjoy a few care-free days and really reflect on what I wanted, when I came back I felt so refreshed and was raring to go again, sometimes it really does pay to take a step back and switch off for a few days to get started again.

If you’re thinking of travelling alone, I really hope this post has shone some light on any concerns you had. If I could give you one piece of advice it would be, do it! I promise you won’t regret it, it’s amazing to step out of your comfort zone and to prove to others that you are capable of doing it by yourself, even if it is only for a few days it feels like a big step and would I’d encourage you all to take!

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    • Hayley Rubery 4th November 2014 / 10:09 am

      Me too, it's so nice to be by yourself for a while 🙂

      Hayley x

  1. Little Miss Katy 3rd November 2014 / 2:07 pm

    This sounds absolutely idyllic. I love the idea of travelling alone but have never quite worked up the courage to just book it. Might be something I try next year 🙂 (after the Christmas spend is over!) xx

    Little Miss Katy | UK Lifestyle Blog

    • Hayley Rubery 4th November 2014 / 10:10 am

      I would honestly recommend it, it seems like such a big step but I promise you'll love it! x

  2. Laurel Melsom 3rd November 2014 / 3:06 pm

    I'm going travelling around America on my own next year, even though it's an organised tour a lot of my friends and family were shocked that I was going on my own but I can't wait just to get out there and do what I want when I want and haev that time on my own.


    • Hayley Rubery 4th November 2014 / 10:10 am

      Good on you lovely – you're still actually going on your own even though you'll be meeting people out there! I hope you have the best time x

  3. Filthy Paws & Silky Drawers 3rd November 2014 / 5:27 pm

    Such an interesting post – I'm usually a big fan of my own company and while I love my friends and family, enjoy doing things alone too. I've never considered travelling alone especially after having my handbag (with my passport inside) stolen whilst abroad last Summer and definitely wouldn't have been able to handle it/get back to the UK had I been alone. I'd love one day to travel alone though, the idea of just being able to do exactly what you want is really appealing.

    Really enjoyed your post and glad you have such a good trip!



    • Hayley Rubery 4th November 2014 / 10:11 am

      It wasn't really something I considered either then all of a sudden it just hit me and I booked it and off I went, I'd say bite the bullet and go for it – you'll love it! x

  4. Tannaz Kani 9th November 2014 / 5:39 pm

    I've just stumbled upon your blog and absolutely love this post! I'd love to do something like this one day but the thought of being in a new city all by myself terrifies me just a bit! Well done on being so brave xxx


  5. Lyubomira Kirilova 25th March 2015 / 4:05 pm

    I just stumbled upon this post and have to say, you are so right! I wouldn't necessary go on my own on a long holiday, but a long weekend somewhere relatively nearby sounds amazing! I would definitely opt for Paris,too, as I know it pretty well by now. Great post!xx


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